Pornography & Its Effect On Family & Relationships

According to the Journal of Adolescent Research 23.1 (2008) 6-30; Nearly 9 out of 10 (87%) young men and one-third (31%) of young women report using pornography

Pornography Time Statistics from www.Family Safe Media:
Every second - $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography
Every second - 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography
Every second - 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines
Every 39 minutes: a new pornographic video is being created in the United States

                                  Definition of Pornography

1: the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement
2: material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement
3: the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction <the pornography of violence>

                Reasons Why People Seek Out Pornography

Excitement seeking
Looking for variety
Escape difficult or unpleasant emotions
Inability to properly cope with stress
Sexual arousal
Sexual curiosity
Difficulty dealing with life’s challenges
Intimacy issues
To see their fantasies acted out
Fills a gap in their own relationship
Partner has had too much alcohol/drugs; inhibits sex drive or is a turnoff
Sex drive sapped by fatigue
Children; no time for intimacy
On medication
Body image issues
Gives a man the fantasy of controlling a woman
Replacement for the idealized sexual experience that is difficult or impossible to realize in real life
Can lead to more serious acts resulting in arrest and legal consequences

        Impact of Viewer’s Actions on Themselves and Others

Destruction of relationships due to: lies, secrecy, deception
Wives feel that they cannot compete with pornography
Spouses begin to have problems with their self-esteem
Women blaming themselves for their husband’s issue
Husbands become less emotionally attached to their wives
Many times a major factor in infidelity and divorce
Loss of healthy family relations
Viewer becomes desensitized and may seek more perverse forms
Viewer has stronger notions of women as commodities or as "sex objects."
Viewers have greater risk of out-of-wedlock births and STDs
Maxed-out credit cards
Lost sleep
Neglected responsibilities
Viewer feels shame and guilt
Male viewers may feel inadequate; cannot live up to porn standard
Male viewers may feel they have to be like the porn guy to really impress women
Promotes destructive practices and can lead to progressive addiction
Increases chance of his/her spouse and children finding the material
Damage viewer's reputation
Decrease viewer’s job productivity which could  lead to job loss
Could lead viewer to unhealthy and/or inappropriate relationships with co-workers
Can cause viewer to have unhealthy memories
Can become a serious addiction

Pornography may impact someone you know:  neighbor,  family member,  spouse, or  yourself.  It can bring destruction to both the viewer and to those that surround his/her life; personally and professionally.  But, there is help and support through counseling and hypnosis.  “Together we can…”

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